Backside of Love Glossary
My own definitions for terms and concepts you'll see around the Backside Of Love projects (including Guardian Island). As with almost everything in this sort of world, Your Mileage May Vary.

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Adoring Discipline

A phrase I coined for a friend's Corner :) to differentiate the mere physical acts of spanking (which many include in their life for varying levels of physical need), from the entire aura and headspace of Punishmentality in a very loving relationship, where the emotional needs of the disciplinee are very well understood by a Disciplinarian who adores her.

The "Adoring" part does NOT preclude the seriousness of the discipline (punishment). Our belief is that, for those whom are moved and fulfilled by feeling tended-to and thoroughly punished by a trusted loved one to whom they've willingly given the authority to do so, the amount or severity of the punishment depends on what works for them.

So, for someone who requires very severe punishment in order to feel the fulfillment and Punishmentality they need, very severe punishment is Adoring Discipline. For one who would feel terrified, abused, or otherwise negatively-treated afterward by severe punishment, lighter, more symbolic discipline might suffice, and therefore be equally as Adoring a version of Discipline as the previous example.

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Adoring D/s

Denotes Dominance and submission practiced between those in a healthy, love relationship, as opposed to the broader genre of general D/s, which is so often practiced between more casual partners or strangers, in clubs and other gatherings.

It isn't a matter of the intensity of the D/s, it's about the different headspace when submission is offered to a Love, and the Dominance is practiced on someone you adore, which elevates the emotional and psychological intensity of the physical play so gorgeously.

Very severe D/s can be very Adoring, if that is what the bottom requires to get to the headspace that fulfills her the most. If severe D/s would scare her, or push abuse buttons, or otherwise not bring something positive and fulfilling, then it's not Adoring D/s for her: That person needs a different level of these things to be Adored via D/s... Which is why we feel that it's integral to attaining the "whole package" of D/s lifestyle fulfillment, that it be between adults in a healthy, committed relationship, where the trust and mutual understanding and mutual empathy can enhance this all profoundly.

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AfterCare

The ALL important tending to the heart and bottom of one that has been disciplined. The physical and emotional intensity often take a disciplinee very deeply inside herself, or otherwise into a headspace or frame of mind where she needs your patient, gentle assistance to come back to Earth. If the ritual and headspace tend to bring her most piquant emotions closer to the surface, then this can be a prime time to encourage healthier, self-accepting messages with your words, tone, and actions. Often, you've a rare, fairly direct window into her deepest self just after the otherworldly, overwhelming experience of real PunishMentality, so use it wisely and compassionately.

For many, this is the defining emotional moment of healthy Adoring Discipline, when forgiveness and absolution is offered. 
 

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Ageplay

The pursuit by adults of feelings which one associates with another age;  Using roleplay, fantasy, or alternative lifestyles to create the dynamic of an older authority figure (Guardian) and a younger, emotionally-real Innerkid in a relationship that is pseudo-parental, catering to the needs of the Innerkid as realistically as possible, as if she had a Biokid's emotional needs, for some combination of the therapeutic emotional experience, and the physical, sensory, or sexual fulfillment. On Guardian Island, Innerkids are considered emotionally-real, and Adult Ageplay is about nurturing and guiding and protecting the Innerkid, as a biological parent does for a Biokid.
 

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Backside of Guardian Island

The backside of the Island (the Kittery) is devoted to Adoring D/s, Domestic Discipline, and Intimate Ageplay, celebrating the mingling of healthy, grownup relationships, and the Ageplay needs of Innerkids, through above-board fiction, discussion, and roleplay.

On the Backside, you'll find people whose Ageplay needs include sexuality, whether in the form of actual sexual activity, or added spices to the care of an Innergirl.

If your Innerkid is curious about her sexual feelings, or finds it perfectly natural to have special physical times with her Guardian then you will be understood on this side of Guardian Island.
 

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"Backside of Love"
Having noticed down through the years that there were a number of common threads and themes, both emotionally and sexually, which devotees of the lifestyle genres of Domestic Discipline, Adoring D/s, and reParenting (Adult Ageplay), often share, we've coined the phrase Backside of Love as shorthand for these often difficult-to-define themes.

So many of the intrigues, needs, and methods used to practice these lifestyles, overlap and apply to another. A very common focus on the bottom, for example, runs through these genres, whether for discipline, training, medical attentions, or soothing. And the headspaces of profound trust, in order to find the fulfillment possible when giving some measure of authority over one's self to a loved one, exist in very similar form, whether that authority and trust feels best to you as submitting to your spouse's discipline, or to your Top's or Mistress's training, or your adopted Guardian's guidance.

Three purportedly-different lifestyles, which in fact are fairly-similar variations on a common set of themes.

And so, we plumb the depths of these concepts and lifestyles armed with a conceptual shorthand which covers so much territory, so concisely: The Backside of Guardian Island housing our community devoted to these special and intriguing headspaces -- and the  Backside of Love magazine for more written, and visual, explorations.
 

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Bigperson

The adult persona of those who also have Innerkid personae. Used to distinguish between the "Inner Child" part of one's personality, and the adult part.

An Innerkid might say to another, "My bigperson has a really uptight family, so I don't get to come out very often..."
 

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Biokid

A child who is currently a biological minor, used in the context of Ageplay to differentiate between the experiences of an actual child, and those of an Innerkid.

On Guardian Island, reminiscence and fantasy of how one might wish to have been treated as a child, don't involve Biokids, since no actual, biological child is being discussed in that context.

Biokids, of course, are never discussed in terms of Adult Ageplay activities, except to contrast their own lives with those of Innerkids. More discussion of Ageplay ethics can be found here, and is recommended for new members of Guardian Island.
 

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Bottom

Despite that the derriere is so very prevalent in so very much of the Backside of Love, we'll assume that you know enough about this unbelievably-diverse and handy and many-splendored parts of your Love, and use the word to also mean the partner in some form of D/s whom has given a measure of authority over themselves to another, in this parlance, that would be the "Top".  
 

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Charge

The member of any sort of D/s relationship (whether Domestic Discipline, D/s, Adult Ageplay, etc)  relationship whom gives some measure of authority to another (Guardian). Used as a convenient catch-all for the many different labels which different people relate to in various of these lifestyles, which we find have this common theme of finding emotional and sexual Power and Majesty from the Intimacy Of Authority.
 

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Daddy

Obviously this is a role, and term of endearment, very common in the Ageplay world, and  isn't about any biological relative. Many Innergirls crave a partner (whether romantic or not) whom they can think of with the special emotional attachments which the word "Daddy" brings to them.

Many of the traditionally-held attributes of good biological fathers, mirror attributes which  many Innergirls are craving in their life. Reliability, strength, protection, comfort... it's common for someone in these relationships to encapsulate those sorts of feelings about someone with the endearment "Daddy".

Of course one could fill many books (and many have been!) talking about the finer points and the origins of craving "fatherly" attributes in a lifestyle partner, and some women find too much discomfort with using a title which reminds them too much of their biological fathers, particularly those with sexual Ageplay/etc relationships.

I've encountered a number of Innergirls who want a "Daddy" as part of a relationship because of diametrically opposite sensibilities burned into them from childhood. Sometimes, if the father was harsh or dictatorial or even physically abusive, the Innerkid is feeling a subconscious craving to re-experience their childhood, with someone they've chosen this time, whom they trust this time, and who enacts even intense things like punishments, but this time she is comforted, and cherished, and obviously loved.

So, an Innergirl's desire to think of an adult partner as "Daddy" can have all manner of sources and triggers, but I've never met any for whom using the word invoked any connection to their bio-father -- they crave fatherly attributes in an adult partner, without carrying forward any connection to their actual father.
 

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D/lg

"Daddy/little girl". Shorthand for the Adult Ageplay lifestyle of a "Daddy" who is reParenting an (adult) Innergirl in the relationship. Typically includes many of the traditional trappings that a biokid who was thought of as a "Daddy's girl" would be very comfortable with.
 

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DD (Domestic Discipline)

The application of traditional, domestically-flavored forms of Corporal Punishment in an adult relationship, usually meant to indicate that one partner is given the authority to use spanking in a way that at times has been socially appropriate for Biokids and spouses, in some cultures.
 

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D/s

Literally "Dominance and submission", we use this term to cover most of the sorts of relationships likely to be discussed as the Backside of Love. Any relationship where one person willingly gives some measure of authority to another, whether you think of it as S&M, Dom/me and sub, or Daddy and Innergirl, etc., the common concept is the submission of a certain amount of control of yourself to another (very hopefully to another whom you trust, love, and are in a healthy relationship with), and hence, is definitively "D/s".
 

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Emotionally-Real Ageplay (or Innerkid)

Defines the flavour of Adult Ageplay which foments emotional experiences very similar to that of a Biokid, as opposed to lighter roleplay (or foreplay) flavours of Ageplay.

Many Innerkids experience emotions as potently and richly as do Biokids. For others, their Innerkid is more of an activity, a diversion, or pastime, rather than a state of being, or an emotional reality, as it is for the emotionally-real Innerkid.
 

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Foster Guardian

An adult persona providing Guardianship temporarily to an Innerkid, as opposed to having adopted her or him into a relationship. Foster Guardians provide the safe stewardship of Innerkids in the Daycare sessions, for example.
 

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Goddaughter / Godson

 

This phrase is handy to signify a relationship which is closer than an Aunt/Uncle, but less intimate than a Daddy/Mommy.

In the regular ol' world, a Godmother/Godfather is usually an adult who is extremely close to the child, and willing to step in with parental duties when needed.

For many, the Mommy/Daddy relationship in Ageplay, signifies complete authority, and complete emotional (and/or other) intimacy, often even signifying that the two people are also in a romantic relationship.

When a relationship is very close, pseudo-parental, more special to the parties than a babysitting or Uncle/Aunt connection, but not as complete a merging as the Mommy/Daddy role often is, Goddaughter/Godson is a middle-ground description.
 

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Guardian

The "Top" or dominant in any Backside of Love relationship (Dom, Domme, Mistress, Master, Daddy, Mommy, Uncle, etc.)

Despite that in the outside world, "Guardian" generally refers to the caretaker of a biokid, the priorities and purpose that such a care-giver should have with a child, applies nicely to anyone given personal authority over another in a special relationship.

Like a "Guardian Angel", or a "legal guardian", the Guardian in such a (safe, loving) relationship should be oriented toward taking care of their charge, protecting them (whether it be from injury during a pure D/s scene, or from fear with an Innerkid, or from overspending with an old-fashioned wife), and over-all being as responsible for this person as is appropriate for the relationship, living up to the trust it takes to grant personal authority over one's self to another.

So, we find Guardian to be an expressive, apt, and lovely term to fluidly indicate any sort of authority figure in any sort of Backside of Love relationship.
 

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Guardian Island®

GI is a Virtual Island dedicated to the exploration of emotionally-driven D/s lifestyles (by which we mean any relationship where personal authority over one's self is granted to a trusted Guardian, such as Domestic Discipline, D/s, Adult Ageplay, etc.) and headspaces, which includes several different projects, including the Snuggery (a virtual community focusing on reParenting (Adult Ageplay) relationships and therapeutic exploration and regression via roleplay, discussion, and community support; The Kittery, another virtual community on the Island which explores the in these sorts of healthy, loving D/s relationships; the Backside of Love magazine, a monthly journal of above-board expression of these profound relationships via fiction, prose, articles and imagery; and a number of other facilities and projects, like chatrooms, etc.

[feel free to contact me if you have any questions about Guardian Island]
 

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GI Crew

Behind the several people who kindly help out with moderating GI, the actual owners of the place are Unka Bobby, and his beloved Innergirl daughter and wife, Carolyn Faulkner.

Feel free to contact us with any comments or suggestions you might have about the place, and thank you for being a part of it!
 

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Headspace

A combination of feelings, thoughts, and environment, creating a specific overall state of mind, which is both visceral and  encompassing.

Something akin to an "altered state of consciousness", it is another overall state of mind (such as that of an innerkid, while  roleplaying with an ageplay partner) that is pervasive enough to feel both real and overpowering.
 

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Innerkid

The part of one's identity, which relates to feeling a different chronological age. This identity can manifest itself through any combination of reminiscence, fantasy, roleplaying, and alternative lifestyles, in Adult Ageplay relationships where one seeks the identity of the charge to another's Guardian identity.
 

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Intimacy of Authority

Weaving through several similar "BDSM" lifestyles, the devotees of any of which often feel distinct from those within the others, we've found a common thread, which we call the Intimacy of Authority, and which the Backside is very devoted to. This refers to any relationship in which one person has willingly given up some measure of authority over themselves to a trusted Other (preferably in a healthy, loving, committed relationship), submits to physical discipline for enforcing it, and finds an inherent sexuality woven through having those things in their life, despite that those things are very real, and not just roleplayed. Genres such as spankos, S&M folks, Domestic Discipline folks, D/s people, etc., all very often include this powerful headspace of sexual intimacy connected to very real personal Authority in the relationship.
 

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Intimate Ageplay

For some Ageplay folks, their healthy adult sexuality is mingled with their Innerkid needs. The inclusion of physical intimacies, or sexuality, in an Adult Ageplay relationship, is referred to as Intimate Ageplay, where the Innerkid has sexual interactions with her Guardian.

Some couples posit the expression of this healthy sexuality, as educating or training the Innergirl, if her emotional needs include feeling as innocent as a Biokid of that age ought to be. Others find fulfillment from allowing her Innergirl to simply be as sexual as her Bigperson is, adding that element to interactions with her Guardian.

As always, physical intimacy and sexuality here ALWAYS refers to an Innergirl, who is, of course, biologically an adult -- NEVER to a Biokid, who is biologically an actual child.
 

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Kittery

The Kittery is the counterpart to the Snuggery on the virtual Island of Guardian Island. It is a virtual community which expands the purely-Ageplay (and non-sexual) priorities of the Snuggery, to include any form of D/s relationship in which one person gives some measure of personal authority over them, to another.

The headspace of the place is meant to be all about the , a motto which points to the acceptance of how very real authority, and very real discipline, can be part of a loving, healthy relationship which also includes a special sexuality woven through having those things in one's life.

"Unka Bobby" and his wife, Carolyn Faulkner, run the Kittery as the headquarters of their Backside of Love project, with the help of volunteer moderators who keep the community safe from predators, allowing the inherently sexual aspects of these themes to be explored in a safe, accepting environment.
 

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Kitty

Many Innerkids are most fulfilled by being treated as realistically like a Biokid as is possible, and yet many of them also have a sexuality, and are in a sexual relationship which includes them (the Innerkid part of the adult). So around here we often use more "kid-friendly" terms for adult concepts, in order to help Innerkids stay in Littlespace as much as possible, even when very frank, adult concepts are under discussion.

"Kitty", then, is our gentler (kid-friendly) version of the cruder word "pussy", the slang for a woman's genitalia. You will see Innergirls here refer to their "Kitty" in that context.
 

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Littlespace

The frame of mind of an adult when most emotionally connected to her Innerkid. For some, this is almost a semi-hypnotic state, where the feelings and thoughts of the adult fade into the background, and she feels as much like a Biokid as is possible.
 

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Punishmentality   (PunishMentality)

The particular, hard-to-define :) headspace which having Adoring Discipline in one's life, and/or the specter of impending punishment, creates in one's head, heart, and tummy, which brings something very positive-feeling, emotionally and/or sexually.

In short, this is our short-hand for being wired up to crave real CP in your life.

Whether that craving is about the intimacy and submission of being physically punished (of having relinquished that degree of control over one's self, such that a trusted Other decides when punishment is best for you), or about fulfillment from the physical aspects of CP (the ritual, the positioning, and the intense purging of emotion which many thrive from having in their life), varies widely.

But the defining quality of having a "Punishmentality" is that you crave having very real CP, for very "real" (or very real-feeling) issues, from someone to whom you've granted that authority.

Note that, to us, this is different from other flavors of being a "spanko", which are more about simply being aroused by the acts of spanking. While someone with a Punishmentality might well be aroused by having this in their life, and/or thinking about punishment scenes, this particular headspace requires that the discipline feels very emotionally real to them, and that it's about real issues (whether of behavior, or "training", or any number of catalysts -- but the point being that the headspaces of truly being punished, for good reason, and then forgiven and reassured, are a craving).

The butterflies which most disciplinees feel, is one of the components of Punishmentality, as are the feelings of (safe) blushing embarrassment at the thought of being punished as would a child, and the complex emotions evoked by the rituals of punishment in an adult's life.

The submission to authority brings that emotional intimacy, and the words, the icons (implements, particular positions, verbal tools of voice, tone, and words), all combine to create a headspace which most devotees of Adoring Discipline recognize as uniquely connected to having the adult punishments in their life, which the outside ("vanilla") world could never comprehend.

Something akin to an "altered state of consciousness", it is another overall state of mind that is pervasive enough to feel both real and overpowering.
 

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Realplay

Many Innerkids experience Ageplay on a very real emotional level, as real and visceral as does a Biokid. For them, the activities and events of Ageplay aren't mere Roleplay, but are very real on the most powerful levels.

Some might argue that what most of us do, as part of Ageplay, is by definition, "playing a role"... and therefore roleplay.

But that's focusing just on the physical, the external, where (indeed) an adult who is behaving like a child, but isn't a child, can be thought of as playing a role.

But hereabouts, we care only about the Inner Journey, not the merely external -- so many Innerkids, who are emotionally *real*, are experiencing the feelings and sensitivities which she did at that biological age. For her, the play, the activities of Adult Ageplay, are a role only in the most superficial sense -- the real *point* to all of that play, and of appearing to take on a role, is the trust and comfort she needs to re-experience the very *real* thoughts and feelings which she did back then, when she was biologically her Innerkid's age. For her, being in that place is *not* a role -- her Innergirl is simply *her* (in all the most important ways), when she *was* that age.

The motivation for that varies, but the point is to make this Inner Journey *real*, emotionally real, for many Adult Ageplayers.

That's Realplay, as opposed to Roleplay.
 

 

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reParenting

Many people find much greater emotional power and therapeutic potential from Adult Ageplay than just roleplay or sexual play. For many emotionally-real Innerkids, the craving is for the very realistic re-creation of certain feelings associated with being little and being parented.

Some were abused by parents, and crave some of the powerful headspaces of being safe and loved in someone's strong hands -- others did get to experience what all Biokids deserve, and crave those feelings still, in adulthood. Hence one of the mottos of GI is "For what you miss -- or missed."

So we use the term reParenting to more accurately discuss those in these lifestyles to create headspaces around feeling safely and lovingly parented, as opposed to other flavors of Adult Ageplay which, for some, revolve around lighter roleplay, foreplay, or other motives.

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Roleplay

Taking on the personae of Ageplay temporarily, or only in certain situations, as opposed to experiencing those roles permanently, or as an alternative lifestyle.
 

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SIG

Special Interest Group:  a sub-group which focuses more tightly on a more narrow topic than the main group does.
 

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Snuggery

On the virtual Island of Guardian Island, the Snuggery is a compound on the front-side, devoted to all manner of explorations of the Inner Child, or Innerkid, via roleplay, discussion, group support, fiction, and non-fiction, in a protected and non-sexual environment.

A group of experienced volunteers from the Adult Ageplay world helps owner "Unka Bobby" moderate this world, with the highest priority being placed on emotional safety.

It's a devoutly comfy residence for the many Innerkids and Guardians who call it home. There are many rooms where residents may play, bedrooms for any who wish a safe place, and lots of other Innerkids and Guardians who understand your needs.
 

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SOS

Supporting Our Struggles is the label we use for peer-support discussion, meetings, etc., for the issues (struggles) which many in the BDSM world (including Adult Ageplay, et al) face, often from a common kernel of childhood emotional trauma, such as Major Clinical Depression, Anxiety, self-injury, and other realities which the clinical world calls "disorders", but which we choose to call "struggles". Backside Of Love projects include as much such support as is realistic in the Virtual world, such as discussion forums in our communities, live meetings in our RumpUs Rooms, input from professionals, etc.
 

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"Spanko"

A label which many who are into adult spanking in some form, apply to themselves. Those identifying themselves as spankos may have any of a wide variety of interests and drives for having spanking as part of their lifestyle or fantasies, from the purely sexual enjoyment of the sensations of spanking, to the heady psychology of "Punishmentality".
 

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Squicked

To feel a high level of discomfort, relating to a deeply personal genre such as Ageplay, or other alternative sexualities.

Despite the need for open-mindedness and tolerance among sub-groups who share a craving that the general population would disdain and ridicule (like BDSM such as Adult Ageplayers), one still encounters certain passions within others, which tickle a sort of emotional gag reflex, in which case it is considered politely explicit to say that such a topic "squicks me".
 

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Tending

In as personal and intimate a relationship as is any form of D/s (by which we mean any relationship where one person willingly gives some measure of authority to another, whether you think of it as S&M, Dom/me and sub, or Daddy and Innergirl, etc.), there often are very special attentions which the Top pays to the Bottom, be it a punishment session, medical examination, pleasuring, or various sorts of very personal "training". We use the term "tending" to encompass all manner of these sorts of attentions, as the feelings and headspaces elicited by them are often quite similar.
 

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Themes (our "umbrella themes")

This refers to what we call The Intimacy of Authority. The Backside of Love project is here to focus on the potent headspaces of authority, discipline and eroticism which are common to many lifestyle themes (or headspaces) within the genres of BDSM.

* The willing gift of some measure of personal authority over you to another.

* The submission to corporal discipline in order to enforce it.

* And the thread of intimacy and arousal which is woven through it.

Whether you think of yourself as a submissive, slave, old-fashioned wife, or Innergirl, if the aura of authority over you and potential punishment is unendingly connected to your sexuality (which doesn't preclude it being very real and effective discipline), then you have what we call Punishmentality, and the Backside of Love is right up your... er... alley.
 

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Voicegnosis

The use of calming voice tones, and words chosen from intimate knowledge of the person's psyche, which can have a great effect on the comfort level of someone in one's care.

Reassurances in a certain cadence and certain timbre are very effective to bring peace into the heart of an Innerkid, or anyone else in one's care, while guiding them through intense or difficult moments (such as during aftercare, or during a punishment itself, when it can be very moving for them to be guided deep within themselves) -- or simply to gently adore them off to sleep...
 

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YKIOK

"Your Kink Is OK" is a shorthand reminder that (as People of Kink) we're all misunderstood  and judged by the vanilla world, and thereby we should be that much more accepting of the particular interests of another Person of Kink, whether or not we understand or share them.  Often used conversationally as a sort of assurance that what's coming next isn't meant to impugn another person's tastes.

* Does not apply to Adult Ageplay, for far too many BDSM pundits, necessitating havens like Guardian Island and the Backside Of Love project.

 

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Xine

The Backside Of Love magazine, which is all about the emotional power of submitting to  the authority of a loved one, the intense headspaces of Punishmentality which using CP to enforce it brings, and feeling all of that as part of your mutual sexuality in adult relationships.

The emphasis isn't on any given label, such as "spanko" or "submissive" or "Innergirl", but rather on the common threads that run through many lifestyles like that.

It's headspace-driven, through art, fiction, articles, and people who really live these things, every day -- and one of its goals is to uncover more sincere, real people like you, who understand the power and complexity of these headspaces, and see how empowering it can be to share them with others.

Are you a writer, who does get these headspaces? One of our great goals is to find the many hidden talents we've found are out here, that are just too shy, or too insecure, to show their work to others -- or maybe who've even secretly fantasized about being a published author!

In addition to the Backside of Love Xine, we publish the more interesting slants on all of this, and can bring you to print, in our magazine or our printed anthologies. Contact us if you've ever written about how much all of this means to you, moves you, and we'd love to talk! :)
 

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Zine

An online version of a magazine -- a digital publication (as a website, or delivered via email) formatted and produced much like a print magazine, usually containing fiction, non-fiction, and imagery on a particular subject.
 

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