Backside of Love: the Xine (Adoring Discipline, Domestic D/s, Intimate Ageplay (like spanking, Ageplay, punishment, anal attentions, rectal temps, cornertime, etc.)


feature: InnerView: A Clinical Psychologist talks about Punishmentality in healthy relationships

ur InnerView this issue is with a friend who helps us oversee both communities, whose perspective we like quite a lot.

DrkRebelMommy's avatar in the Kittery "Rebel" goes by the nicks Drk-Rebel-Mistress and Drk-Rebel-Mommy, and is one of our favorite friends in these lifestyles.

She's a very talented Mommy and Aunt figure to Innerkids, a RL Mommy and Mistress to her boi/fiancée, and an enthusiastic Domme in her local BDSM clubs. She's also a good writer, and we'll be showcasing her stuff here in upcoming issues.

BACKSIDEOFLOVE: So, let's start at the beginning. How old were you when you first had thoughts about D/s things? And the first time you acted on them? How would you describe the first adult relationship in which you were the Top?

REBEL: Ah, my sordid beginnings....I have always been a Top even as a child. I was the little girl on the playground organizing everything and mothering everyone else. In every relationship I have had be it friendship or romantic, I have always been the decision maker and nurturer. I tend to attract and thrive off of people who "need".

My first BDSM experience? I was a young innocent of a mere 18 years old. A gorgeous and disarming woman accosted Me in a an equally innocent lesbian bar and basically pointed out to Me that I was a Domme.